“Can any woman be too old for boudoir?” This question popped out of my mind after my mom came across my pictures of a boudoir shoot in my own bedroom. The whole idea of being a “sexy kitten” to be captured in a photo was fairly unfamiliar with my mom at that time. She was 54. Her generation simply wasn’t aware that the concept existed under society prejudices. So my mom was surprised I’d posed in such a daring manner. She shook her head and sighed, “You guys are lucky to live in this age. I have never known of such a bold photo taking style! Now that I am over 50, my skin is saggy, my wrinkles are deep, I can’t do this anymore.”
I decided to sit down and reflect on the question of whether age should be a measure stick with which we put an invisible constraint to be sexy in our own skin. Younger generation certainly has more freedom to explore and express their sexuality. But that doesn’t mean the older generation cannot.
One might feel insecure about their age, their skin no longer elastic and firm. We as a society dictates what could be acceptable as “sexy”. Sexy doesn’t usually have to be youthful. Sexy can also be “confident in your own skin” no matter how old you are and what you have been through.
One of my most favorite TV characters of all time is Samantha Jones in Sex and the City. She was fierce, confident, funny, charismatic, open minded and independent. Above all, she didn’t bother about what society may have to say. She was approaching middle age, and it seemed like nothing could shake her confidence off the ground. Samantha was the epitome of female power and confidence. She embraced her sexuality and acted comfortable in her own skin so much that men worshipped her feet. She knew age would not define her as a person, her inner beauty, her struggles, her experience. Samantha Jones dressed in sexy lingerie, took nude photos and hung it on her wall near the entrance!
It’s time we put that all too common misconception that “beauty is defined by age” to rest for good thanks to Samantha Jones! Also, did you know that at least half of the women that come to my studio are over 50? (Both these beauties are grandmas, but shhhh!)
With our professional experience, advice on the correct wardrobe and posing, skilled stylists, and an expressed desire to have you looking your best, you would not regret boudoir session with us! You will look sublime in your own skin under our lenses.
Boudoir photography is a fantastic opportunity to rejuvenate your sense of self. Gone are the days when after motherhood or one’s 40th Birthday was the end of sexy. Throw out those preconceived notions you may have succumbed to in your life. Many mothers have stretch marks, saggy skin, wrinkles and scars. Accept that we are human and we are not perfect. It’s the attitude that counts and makes one alluring. With boudoir, you are able to direct your own physical being, props, and settings to minimize the things you don’t like and show off the things you do.
This is time for you to find your inner Samantha Jones, to embrace and live life to the fullest, despite what anyone might have to say! You have one life, be the director of it! By the way, I have booked my mother a boudoir session and she was absolutely thrilled.